There are those of us in life who like to ask big questions.
Some of us want to know the truth at any cost.
There are many people in this world that “must” know the question of “why” something is. The answer is not only for ourselves but for future generations.
Asking the simple question “why” brings about entire new worlds of possibilities for the true truth seeker. Therefore, a question that has interested me for quite some time is the following:
“Why do I like catfights?”
Namely, “what is it” that I find so compelling or attractive about two women fighting or wrestling each other?
When I first asked this question, I figured there would be a universal answer.
At this point in the journey I’m going to go out on a limb and say I was WRONG.
The reasons are as numerous as the stars in the sky from what I have gathered at this point. It seems the more I learn on this subject the harder it becomes to pin this question down. This is why I want to avoid, the best I can, making ultimately definitive judgements or statements on the subject.
I have been sitting on writing this essay for well over a year now and I have learned much since that time.
I am a still learning and progressing human being, each year that goes by I seem to be smarter than last year, and want to leave the best advice possible for current and future generations who find themselves asking this same question.
To start things off, I asked a very intelligent friend of mine his opinion on fetishes and his answer was very blunt.
He stated that a fetish is “what you get off to”.
I said, well, ok. There is certainly some truth in that.
However, I enjoy the actual women involved themselves as well, (as opposed to simply the “idea” of them) and they don’t have to be “catfighting” for me to get off. I’ve had sex with quite a few females in my lifetime so I know that they don’t have to be catfighting or wrestling to get me excited.
However! It sure does help! Those females that tapped into my little fetish, knowingly or unknowingly, I performed much better with. No question about it.
But, I digress a bit on my friend’s blunt answer. As I get older…..I find my tastes become a bit more extreme. I am 30 years old at the time of this writing. Not as great shape as I was a few years ago, but I still have a decent body, I’m still clean cut, and I know how to converse effectively with other females.
My tastes are becoming very defined. I would prefer a female that is “into this” as much as I am. I am constantly testing girls that I date to see how they respond when I want to “wrestle” and things of that nature.
Example: There was a time when two females could lightly play slap each other and I would get rock hard aroused. Nowadays, I might get a semblance of a hard on, but I really like a good nude facesit. Or a tight breastsmother. That is what gets me rock hard. The idea of the superior woman of my choice dominating her helpless opponent physically, mentally, and even genetically in a sense is an incredible turn on.
For instance, if the hottest cheerleader on the team simply thrashed an ugly or gothic looking girl in a catfight………I would find that very sexy. Maybe it’s a social hierarchy type of thing, or simply confirmation of the jealousy such a creature as a hot cheerleader receives. In my mind, she deserves the adulation and the jealousy.
She is the “hot” cheerleader. As one of my favorite WWE divas used to say…………..”This is for all the women that want to be me……………..and the men…………..who came to see me! The idea of this “cheerleader type” imposing her “dominance” against lesser females is just a sexual thrill that I still can’t even fully describe or understand. On one hand, it could be considered quite sickening for a person to think like this, and on the other hand, it’s very erotic in my own mind.
It’s important to understand that not all female wrestling or catfight watchers experience the same likes or dislikes in what they want to see.
I use the cheerleader and the goth for example purposes only. There are many examples and scenarios like this that I enjoy mixing and matching against in my own head. Short vs tall, Strong vs weak, White vs Black, so on, and so on, and so on, and so on.
The female on female physical action, the domination (sometimes) involved, the idea of one woman being completely superior to the other is just over the top appealing to me. It is the peak performance gasoline that gets my locomotive running.
Despite that, if a brute of a woman destroys a lesser woman it does little for me if she looks like a man or is literally the size of an ox. For others, that is their “forte”. It is not mine. The fans of this “fetish” are very different indeed.
So, my small description above of “what I like“, varies GREATLY from person to person out there.
Sexually, I don’t want a little girl. I want a woman. A woman can be 19 years old or 35 years of age. I know “girls” who are in their late 20′s and some in their early 40′s. I like a “woman” who takes charge. Does bad things. Things she is not supposed to, thus the definition of a “bad” girl.
What I have learned this past year or so is that “fetishes”………if you wish to call this a fetish, which could be a bad description, are as numerous as the people that fill the earth. Fetishes are common amongst almost everyone it seems. What is most likely not common in real life is the discussion of fetishes or the discovery of fetishes in many relationships since we live in a very hypersensitive world.
I started posting on various web boards around the internet in 2008 getting feelers from like minded individuals on this very question that the title of this article poses. I posted on many catfight and female wrestling boards, and I even tried to find some boards that dealt with psychology to try to piece and glue together the various answers that are out there.
One common claim is that men enjoy women who are dominant. Essentially, you could even consider it Darwinian if you will. Much of it has to do with “who is the superior woman” for my best guess.
Perhaps, it is something genetic from our past.
I can say for myself only, that is what I “indeed” find sexy. But for me, superiority does not always consist of simply physical strength. I find it very sexy when a skinny, curvy girl destroys a girl that is much stronger or heavier than her.
For others, they prefer the exact opposite or multiple variations thereof.
But, a theme is applied in “my” case. Dominance, and/or, superiority. However, I personally enjoy matches that are one-sided in nature while others simply do not enjoy a match unless it’s extremely competitive all the way to the very end.
Some have also claimed that the intensity involved when females wrestle or fight evokes a kind of “sexual passion” in interested bystanders who are watching. Two women fighting over a man can easily have this type of effect.
One common theme that you will find with a lot of fans of the catfight-female wrestling fetish is that they generally do not want to see the losing girl killed or maimed. Blood, nor disfigurement, is generally the goal, as most humans keep things strictly in the fantasy world when it comes to loving catfights and female combat.
For example, many catfight fans have stated that if they saw two girls catfight……. “for real”……they would break it up. Whether this is due to genuine concern for the girls, or social pressures, I do not know. In my own case, I know it’s a combination of both depending on the ever various circumstances that life seems to throw at us.
For instance, I would not let my girlfriend get whipped in a catfight.
I would care little about how sexy her opponent is.
It’s good to keep in mind that some people enjoy the winner of the fight, and others watch because they empathize and “connect” with the loser of the fight. And, this catfight “fetish” is not confined to men alone.
Many women enjoy watching and participating in catfights as well. For some, it is sexual, and for others, it is the competitive nature that thrills them rather than a sexual one.
Is this an evolutionary primal trait? Essentially, a figment of our animalistic instinct? A desire that has evolved or stayed with us over time? But……..I must ask……..what about the people out there (numerous) that DO NOT enjoy two women fighting?
What about those who don’t enjoy fighting or wrestling at all?
Perhaps the evolutionary gene traveled with some……… but not others? Indeed. Some are gay, some are lesbian, some want to be both. Examples abound.
Again, this is a big question. I realize I am jumping around. There are many angles and paradigms to consider. Do we lean more towards the scientific angles, or religious angles, or should we even ask this question at all?
As you can see, I respect this question. I want the real answer or answers. I don’t want to make vast assumptions based on my own limited experiences in this world. This is a big world. There are a lot of you out there who are exactly like me in this regard with variations on your ultimate thrill. Male and Female alike.
That is why this essay is labeled Part 1.
I will return for Part 2 when I have formulated enough that I personally deem worthy to be Part 2 if I ever get that far.
Part 2 is going to require your assistance. Please leave your intelligent thoughts and opinions in the comments box below. I would like this to be something we can build upon to gather more understanding on this subject that consumes so much of our mental, physical, and even sexual energies.
Leave a comment on this issue, not only for yourself, but for others who will be reading this down the line. I think this is a good conversation to engage in whether you are a big fan of all this or not, because the more opinions that we have here, the more we will have to build off of.